The Problem with Perfect

By Jane BluesteinJuly 11, 2016June 13, 2017 Negative outcomes of perfectionism

A long list of negative outcomes that can be associated with perfectionism, just in case you were thinking that perfectionism is a good thing. (Itâ€™s not!) Negative outcomes that can be associated with perfectionism:Â â€¢ Internalized beliefs and identity built on feedback and messages about who we are and who we should be (reality distortion)….

Getting Real, Getting Well

By Jane BluesteinJuly 11, 2016June 13, 2017 Healing and helping

Here’s fairly extensive listÂ of considerations and potential healing strategies to help keep perfectionism from running our lives. Letâ€™s keep adding to it.Â Suggestions welcome! I guess Iâ€™m a bit suspicious about the idea that a perfectionist can just stop being one. I applaud anyone whoâ€™s managed to pull that off, but for me, the process is…

Who is at Risk for Perfectionism?

By Jane BluesteinJuly 11, 2016 Influences on perfectionism

Are perfectionists born that way? What are some of the risk factors that have the greatest impact on people developing perfectionistic tendencies. Born that way? â€œ…in every resource where inborn factors were mentioned, there was also an acknowledgement of the impact of environment and experiences in and outside of the home. Nowhere was there a…

Cultural Traditions that can Contribute to Perfectionism (and other bad stuff)

By Jane BluesteinJuly 11, 2016 Culture and dysfunction, Influences on perfectionism

Destructive traditions like impression management, scarcity thinking, and oversimplification, that create an environment in which perfectionism can thriveâ€”along with healthier alternatives. Compare harmful (familiar) patterns with their healthier alternatives. Impression Management Pressure to look good; people pleasing; shape-shifting to get othersâ€™ approval; cover up mistakes (shame). Healthy Alternative: Authenticity Safety to be self; tolerance for…

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Friendships

By Jane BluesteinJuly 11, 2016July 11, 2016 Relationships acceptance, control, friendship, healthy friendships, perfectionism and relationships, respect, toxic friendships, toxic relationships

Do you have friends who leave you feeling happy and uplifted? Or do you feel drained, agitated, angry, or resentful when youâ€™ve spent time with certain people? Use the following list to compare and evaluates the friendships you have in your life: Healthy friendships are not one-sided. Both people benefit from knowing each other. In…

Continuum of Effort and Commitment

By Jane BluesteinJuly 10, 2016July 10, 2016 Learning and perfectionism commitment, discouragement, fear of failure, helplessness, indifferent learner, mastery, parenting, perfectionism, persistence, teaching

Look at the rangeâ€”from indifference to masteryâ€”and see where you or your children (or students) fall along the continuum. Also consider whereÂ youÂ fall for certain tasks. Mastery Competent. Likely to be striving for continual growth in that area or related areas, OR ready to move on to the next challenge Sticking with it Efforts to complete…

Legal and Karmic Stuff

By Jane BluesteinJuly 10, 2016 Media resources, Permissions

Using the Material that Appears on this Site In creating this web site, it was my hope and intention to provide helpful and inspiring information in many forms and to as many people as possible. In addition to letting visitors know about The Perfection DeceptionÂ and the training programs this book has inspired, I wanted to…

For the Media: Resources and Policies

By Jane BluesteinJune 23, 2016July 10, 2016 Media resources Leave a comment

Take advantage of Dr. Bluesteinâ€™s outstanding media skills by arranging interview, dialogue, podcast, or appearance on your show. Please consider this:

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Interview Questions: The Perfection Deception

By Jane BluesteinJune 23, 2016July 10, 2016 Media resources advertising, all-or-nothing thinking, anxiety, authenticity, body dysmorphia, conditional approval, coping with perfectionism, fear and perfectionism, fear of abandonment, fear of failure, fear of intimacy, fear of rejection, getting real, good enough, handling mistakes, healing perfectionism, healthy striving for excellence, impact on mental health, impact on physical health, influence of ads, interview questions, making mistakes, media messages, overcommitting, overcorrecting, overprotective parents, parental enmeshment, parental neglect, perfection deception, perfectionism, procrastination, rebounding from failure, relationships with perfectionists, resiliency, stress, suicide, unrealistic expectations, vulnerability to ad messages Leave a comment

The following questions aboutÂ The Perfection DeceptionÂ have been provided to help guide your interview. Please feel free to ask any questions the book or topic inspires. In a live interview, Dr. Bluesteinâ€™s responses may not match the answers provided below. 1. At the beginning of the book you mention that you had several people asking you,…